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CHILDRENS REACTION TO DIVORCE &SEPARATION
Do you wonder sometimes what effect a divorce or separation has on a child? Like adults, children react in different ways to separation or divorce. How they react often depends on the child’s age, temperament and the level of cooperation or conflict between the parents.
It has been observed that for children up to 5 years old, family breakdown can be difficult to understand. Older children can also experience a time of confusion and uncertainty even though they are more able to understand what is happening.This is not for every child that falls in that age group though , but just a generality.
The way parents or other family members react and adjust to the separation makes a big difference to how children feel. It is a situation that although can be proven very traumatic can be made less so with a little application of attention,and care.
If children are supported and encouraged to maintain a positive relationship with both parents, grandparents and other relatives, they are more likely to adapt to the changes. It is a stressful time for children, but most recover and lead normal lives. Children from separated families can develop and flourish just as well as other children, especially if they continue to have supportive and caring relationships with parents and other significant people in their lives, like grandparents, and other relatives.
A big mistake that a lot of people make is in spite of the fighting and constant rifts between them and their spouse,is staying together for the sake of the kids....major blunder.Some situations are simply irreconcilable, and the best thing for all concerned is to simply go separate ways.It's better for the kids and for the parents.As a matter of fact the longer a child is allowed to be exposed to this kind of situation of constant fighting and domestic violence the more a even more serious condition develops and grow into that child, and can lead to very destructive behavior later on in life.
It has been observed that for children up to 5 years old, family breakdown can be difficult to understand. Older children can also experience a time of confusion and uncertainty even though they are more able to understand what is happening.This is not for every child that falls in that age group though , but just a generality.
The way parents or other family members react and adjust to the separation makes a big difference to how children feel. It is a situation that although can be proven very traumatic can be made less so with a little application of attention,and care.
If children are supported and encouraged to maintain a positive relationship with both parents, grandparents and other relatives, they are more likely to adapt to the changes. It is a stressful time for children, but most recover and lead normal lives. Children from separated families can develop and flourish just as well as other children, especially if they continue to have supportive and caring relationships with parents and other significant people in their lives, like grandparents, and other relatives. A big mistake that a lot of people make is in spite of the fighting and constant rifts between them and their spouse,is staying together for the sake of the kids....major blunder.Some situations are simply irreconcilable, and the best thing for all concerned is to simply go separate ways.It's better for the kids and for the parents.As a matter of fact the longer a child is allowed to be exposed to this kind of situation of constant fighting and domestic violence the more a even more serious condition develops and grow into that child, and can lead to very destructive behavior later on in life.
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