CHILDRENS REACTION TO DIVORCE &SEPARATION

         Do   you  wonder   sometimes  what  effect  a  divorce  or   separation  has  on  a  child?       Like adults, children react in different ways to separation or divorce. How they react often depends on the child’s age, temperament and the level of cooperation or conflict between the parents.
       It  has  been  observed that  for children up to 5 years old, family breakdown can be difficult to understand. Older children can also experience a time of confusion and uncertainty even though they are more able to understand what is happening.This  is  not for   every  child  that  falls  in  that  age group though , but   just a generality.
      The way parents or other family members react and adjust to the separation makes a big difference to how children feel. It  is  a  situation  that  although can  be  proven  very traumatic can  be made  less  so  with  a  little  application of  attention,and  care.
      If children are supported and encouraged to maintain a positive relationship with both parents, grandparents and other relatives, they are more likely to adapt to the changes. It is a stressful time for children, but most recover and lead normal lives. Children from separated families can develop and flourish just as well as other children, especially if they continue to have supportive and caring relationships with parents and other significant people in their lives, like grandparents, and other relatives.
       A  big  mistake  that  a  lot  of  people  make  is   in  spite  of  the  fighting  and  constant  rifts  between   them  and  their spouse,is  staying  together   for  the  sake  of  the  kids....major   blunder.Some  situations  are  simply  irreconcilable,  and  the  best  thing   for  all  concerned  is  to  simply  go separate  ways.It's  better  for  the  kids  and  for the  parents.As  a  matter  of  fact  the  longer  a  child  is  allowed  to  be  exposed  to  this  kind  of  situation  of  constant  fighting   and domestic  violence  the    more   a   even  more  serious  condition  develops  and  grow  into   that  child, and   can  lead  to  very  destructive   behavior  later  on  in  life.